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Facebook Sold My Dead Friend’s Page

This was Stephen.

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Stephen died and his profile became a memorial where his friends could stop by and be reminded of him. The way his face looked, what he enjoyed most, and revisit his thoughts through his old posts.

If the saying “Time heals all wounds” is true, I can say from experience that this is only because we forget with time. Memories fade, details of stories become faded and blended, and those friends who died too young are frozen in time.

That’s what makes what happened to Stephen’s profile disturbing.

Facebook took his page and converted it into advertising space.

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Then the company that took the page over TAGGED HIS FRIENDS in a coupon.

Complaints have been made through Facebook and the company has been reached out to by those very friends without any changes to the page.

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I’m writing this story not because I was close to Stephen. I met him because he was my friend’s roommate and I never got the opportunity to get to know him.

Now that he’s gone, I never will have the chance and I know I missed out.

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The reason why I’m writing this story because this is an inconceivable action that Facebook has taken: flipping pages of the dead into ad space.

And that makes me want to vomit.

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Cats/Kittens, College, Education, Health & Wellness, Life

What’s Essential For Success: Class of 2014 Edition

Being a member of the Class of 2014, I’m sitting in the candidate pool with all of my fellow bachelor’s degree-wielding graduates… all 1.8 million of you.  Now being one in a million never seemed negative until it followed that heavy fact, but what will set you apart from that chomping-at-the-bit crowd is one quality: Positivity.

Now you’re probably thinking it’s an irrelevant quality to have in the competitive job market.  Certainly confidence, a cut-throat attitude, or flooding the job market with your tailored resume should ultimately be what’s essential for any successful graduate.  The unfortunate fact is that you’re going to have to face (no matter how confident, cut-throat, or determined you are) a whole lot of Rejection.

And that amount of rejection is going to be brutal.

Remember those 1.8 million other graduates?  They’re doing the same things you’re doing.  They’re ironing their interview suit.  They’re re-working their cover letters to cut down the competition.  They’re stacking their resume with internships and extracurriculars to make you look like yesterday’s trash.

When you start receiving those automated rejection emails from the companies you dreamed of working for, you’re going to need a thick skin.  No college course on your transcript will help you read through rejection email after rejection email after rejection email.

And while you’re sorting through your batch of Dear Candidate letters, you’re going to hear your collegiate friends bursting from the seams.

  • She just received an offer for her dream job.
  • His start-up has taken off and all the media outlets are a buzz with his success.
  • Oh, and that flake who worked at the coffee shop off-campus?  He was just picked up by Google.

BY GOOGLE.

Who knew he programmed as a hobby at night?!

You’re going to be practically foaming at the mouth.  The now-jaded, post-grad version of yourself has become quite the cynic.  This is where your positivity is going save you from yourself.

In order to terminate self destruction mode, use Optimism.  

Sure, you’re seeing success spring up left and right.  It’s just not springing up for you yet and that’s entirely fine.  Those earlier success stories are great for those who are reaping the benefits and you should try to find it in yourself to be happy for them.

Your success is right around the corner and if you let the negativity get to you, it’ll pass right on by.  After all, the only success story founded on grumpiness was written by a cat.

 

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College, Education, Fashion, Life

Bonobos “Daily Grind” Giveaway!

Bonobos "The Grind" Giveaway

Bonobos “The Grind” Giveaway

The men’s fashion brand Bonobos is giving away over $1,500 worth of clothing.  Simply by entering your email address, you can enter to win a work wardrobe upgrade.  The grand prize will consist of Foundation Suit, five Weekday Warrior pants, and five Daily Grind dress shirts.  Enter now, as the contest ends on May 5!  If you’re graduating this Spring and stepping into the work force, there’s no better way to put your best foot forward than a win like this. 

Visit www.bonobos.com to get a glimpse into your fashion potential.

Bonobos focuses on delivering a world-class fit with an energetic spirit behind its clothing designs.  The brand is a fit for the young professional who wants to stand out from the overflowing crowd of fellow graduates, a.k.a. your competition.

Your resume might be killer but if you’re not dressed to kill, you’re going to fall flat.  Human Resources representatives will all say the same thing: Wear a suit to your interview.  Whether you’re interviewing for a conservative, creative, or service job, the right suit will set you up for success.  Bonobos has your expected power suits while also having the creative-friendly suit hues that will add a splash of color at your day in the office.

Bonobos was named “One of America’s Hottest Brands” by Advertising Age, “Best Men’s Pants” by New York Magazine, one of Inc. Magazine’s “20 Awesome Facebook Pages” and was awarded Crain’s “Best Places to Work in New York City”. 

If you need more convincing, check out how fresh these men look:

The Week Day Warrior.

The Week Day Warrior.

Bonobos The Foundation Slim: Blue Micro-Stripe

Bonobos The Foundation Slim: Blue Micro-Stripe

Bonobos Daily Grind, Semi-Spread Collar: Red Classic Tattersall

Bonobos Daily Grind, Semi-Spread Collar: Red Classic Tattersall;  Knit Necktie in Blue & Red Stripe

 

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Cats/Kittens, Entertainment, Life

My Shameless Obsession: My Cat

At work the other day, I was in an elevator talking about the television shows I watch with a coworker.  Another woman was standing with us and it was said that we talk a lot about the shows we watch.  This realization prompted the woman standing along side us in the elevator said, “Well, wait until you have kids.”

My coworker and I reached our floor, we stepped out, and as the elevator doors closed we looked at each other and said, “Are you kidding me?”  To my coworker, it was a comment she hears all too often in her job which is mainly with the married-with-children type.

The woman’s comment outraged my coworker because she hears the same comments about her age and marital status (and child-less status) all the time.

The woman’s comment outraged me because she didn’t even hear me begin to talk about my cat. Her name is Mable, but I also call her Bacon because “Mable Bacon.”

I have one thing to say to you, lady: Nothing compares to my cat obsession.

My Instagram account right now:

#100DaysofHappy?  No.  #100DaysofMable. mylifeMy Twitter account right now: twitter   My Facebook account right now:

Yes, I censored my friends in my photo.

Yes, I took an inspirational quote and made slapped it on a photo of Mable.

Yes, I know how great it looks. facebookThe worst part about being obsessed with my cat is that she doesn’t know or she doesn’t care or she does know and doesn’t care.

But do I care?  No.  I’m too busy obsessing over my cat.

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Cats/Kittens, Education, Entertainment, Health & Wellness, Life, Technology

Your Brain on Facebook

Facebook is blowing up about a video on Facebook.  What does it do to your brain?  It might surprise you… or it might not.

Some “facts” thrown out at you in the video explained in real life:

Courtesy of Reddit User Se7en_Sinner

People are incapable of intimately knowing more than 150 people.”

I don’t argue this fact, I argue that I can intimately know up to that amount.  It depends on my definition of intimacy, I guess.  My definition of intimacy involves letting someone hear my righteous burping or see me without make-up.

Basically for me, the deeper the intimacy, the more natural, bodily functions I’ll allow a person to see.

I’ll be honest, my intimate circle is small because I don’t want other people seeing or hearing things that can’t be unseen or unheard.

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My friend count on Facebook isn’t just a number that makes me feel good because it’s high and that means I’m “like omg so popular.”  My number of friends says that I met all these people at least once.

Maybe I slept over their house in middle school because we were best friends and we did that every weekend.  Maybe I shared a class with them and we rolled our eyes every time that one kid pulled out his e-cigarette.  Maybe they told me a joke at a party and I nearly fell off the couch and peed my pants a little.

Life is too short to keep track of how I met my “friends,” but I can say I know at least a couple of details about the person without needing to scan their profile to figure out “who they are.”

And my friend count is over 400.

“The western and modern world sanctions individuality.  The individual is measured by … having a career, wealth, a self-image, and consumerism… Many people lose their social and familial connections in favor of a self-actualization ideal.”

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Is it entirely wrong of me to pursue a career, to generate an income, hold my head high, and buy things I want?  No.

Does that make me self-obsessed?  No.

Would my friends be mad that I’m pursuing my goals that I set for myself?  No, because they wouldn’t be my friends if they did.

So we should blame the online social network because we’re “collecting friends like stamps and not distincting quantity versus quality?”

I’m going to go with my favorite reply and say, “No.”  Strictly speaking for myself, I see quality in every person I meet… maybe with the exception being that douche with the e-cigarette in class.

(I did not add him on Facebook.)

“Converting the deep meaning and intimacy of friendship with exchange in photos and chat conversations.  By doing so we are sacrificing conversation with connection.”

Again, I might be speaking for myself but when I send my friend a cat photo I found on Imgur, I’m not saying, “OOH Cat.  Look at cat.”  I’m saying, “Hey, I like this cat photo and I know you will, too.  Not in a way that it’s obviously a cat and we both like cats.  In a way that this cat symbolizes something deeper, perhaps a longing to be a cat or to merely be in a cat’s presence.  We are both cat people and seeing this cat will make us both happy.  Here, I present to you not only a cat photo but the happiness that can only be achieved when two cat people see a cat photo.”

AGAIN, I repeat that I have a “small, intimate circle” of friends.

Also, depth of my cat obsession:

“Instead of building true friendships, we’re obsessed with endless personal promotion.  Investing hours on end on our profile, pursuing the optimum order of words in our next message, choosing the pictures in which we look our best.”

Honestly, if your social media account is all that is holding your life together: Keep on keeping on.  I won’t judge, just like I hope you don’t judge me for the horrible, awful looking faces I keep making in every photo I take or all of my cat photos.

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Masquerade Ball circa 2013.

The “fantasies” that this video proposes we use social media for:

1.) We can put our attention where we want it to be.

2.) We will always be heard.

3.) We will never have to be alone.

Which equate to “I share therefore I am.”

A play on Descartes’ “Cognito Ergo Sum” or “I think therefore I am,” however the fantasies are exactly not fantastical.

These ideas are not whimsical or frivolous.

Whether or not social media exists, these are truths we as humans have until the day we die and cease to be.

So, take that Sherry Turkle.

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How I’m Living My Life in My Twenties (Take it or Leave it)

I’m twenty-two and I’m tired of other writers telling me how I “my twenties” should be.

I know I might be an exception to “the rule” when it comes to being a twenty-something (I visit my “family” maybe once a year, my mom is not my best friend, I have three jobs while going to school full-time, and Red Flag I have been in a relationship for about three years), but I know not that different than some of my peers.

I’m going after what I want because I know what I want and because  I’m not a twenty-something with my head up my a**.

This is my list of How I’m Living My Life in My Twenties (Take it or Leave it):

1.) I’m in a relationship.

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I emotionally invest in my S.O. and he does the same.  I do this without hesitation because WHO HOLDS BACK THEIR FEELINGS FOR SOMEONE?

Emotionally Unstable People.

My advice is if you find someone who treats you right, makes you happy, and you can see a future with them: don’t just throw them to the curb just because you’re a twenty-something.

2.) When I was single, I didn’t sleep around.

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And as great as emotionless sex is, I’d rather not sleep around for funzies and wonder why my self-esteem is in the garbage or why I have an unexplained rash.

Analyze that, EliteDaily.com.

However if you enjoy sleeping with whoever you want, go for it.  I’m not here to judge, just don’t judge me for not doing the same.

2.) I drink on a budget.

Courtesy of Imgur.

So I buy cheap wine and go out for “Two Dollar Tuesday.”  You know why?  Because this twenty-something buys her drinks and I’m poor.

I feel like we can all agree that, “Candy is dandy but liquor is quicker.”

3.) I don’t go on vacation.

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You know why, Buzzfeed and Thought Catalog?  Because I’m broke.  That’s why.

4.) I don’t go to dance class.

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You know why, Thought Catalog?  Oh yeah, I’m broke and work too much in order to get out of being broke.

When I get on a dance floor, I rely solely on what I feel in my heart, my instincts, and Beyonce videos.

5.) I can’t get and then quit a job for “The Lolz.”

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Struggling economy.  Competitive application processes.   Fighting over the minimum wage.  Need I say more?

Oh yeah, I’m poor.

6.) I don’t write about how great being in my 20’s is WHILE I AM STILL IN MY 20’s!

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Hindsight is great because it lets you know why things happened.  It allows you to point to what was the right choice and what was the wrong choice in certain situations.

The problem with declaring how awesome being in your twenties is while you’re still in your twenties: You’re only comparing it to being in your teens and childhood.

Although the Magic School Bus and Mr. Rogers were really cool, making them compete with Long Island Iced Teas and being seated at the bar at Buffalo Wild Wings on Half-Price Wings Night isn’t really fair.

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Sorry, Thought Catalog, EliteDaily, and BuzzFeed.  I guess I’m not your demographic.

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Beauty, Fashion, Life

JustFab.com Clearance Items!

JustFab.com always has a clearance sale going on and this month, I finally decided to indulge.

If you’ve been following my blog, you know I haven’t purchased anything “fabulous” since the Summer.  This recent sale was the push that I needed to finally loosen my grip on my wallet… and boy was I glad.

For less than $70.00, I got these closed-toe, ankle-wrap heels:

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Brigitte – JustFab.com

This I’m-About-To-Do-Business Bag:

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Capital – JustFab.com

And this cross-body clutch that just might fit my Samsung Galaxy s4:

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Glimmer – JustFab.com

For less than $25.00 each, these items are a steal.  If you haven’t signed up for JustFab.com yet, the deals you can get for these quality items are extremely reasonable.

And if you feel you aren’t the most stylish, the company gives you a stylist to help you out.  Simply pick out what  your preferences are for a color palette and sizes and BAM.  You just got your dose of fabulous.

I cannot wait for these packages in the mail.  If only JustFab partnered with Amazon and borrowed those drones!

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