We all have to admit that we check in on our former classmates from time to time on Facebook. I’ve noticed a common thread throughout my Newsfeed and my friends’. No matter where you went to High School, you and your classmates all have the same fates.
These members of your graduating class were set on enlisting all throughout High School. They joined because they saw the honor and respect the uniform demands. They wake up every day early and they go to bed late- exhausted. They eat, sleep, and drink discipline. The branch of military they’ve signed up for will be a part of the very core of who they are. They understand what commitment and loyalty really means. No matter what their party affiliation, race, religion, or gender is: they’re going to defend whatever yours is with their life.
They often post pro-military articles and statuses and you often get educated on the realities our servicemen and women live on a daily basis.
They Enlisted… Eventually.
These guys tried everything out after graduating High School along side you. They could have tried going to school at the local community college or at a state school. It just wasn’t for them. They could have taken a part-time job around town. It just wasn’t for them. After kicking a pine cone down the street after a walk to the town Wawa, it clicked in their head. They should enlist. Not saying that their choice was not as honorable as their previously listed brethren, just saying it took them a while to figure out what they were doing.
It was only yesterday that they were posting a cat photo from Imgur and now their last post is a status about how they won’t be able to be reached for a while.
They’re In Some College… Drinking.
Maybe it’s a state school, maybe it’s not. They definitely checked out the social scene before they chose their school. These kids were known for their social reputations in High School and they weren’t about to call it quits when they sat through their Freshmen Orientation. They probably joined a sorority or a fraternity and have made loyal drinking friends, but they’re never going to leave behind those who they partied with in High School.
Their photos are of their sisters or brothers at a party or of a drinking reunion with their friends from home. During Rush, their Cover Photo is of their sorority or fraternity encouraging you to come out to their social events. But hey, they’re doing their thing and they seem pretty happy with it.
They’re In Some College… Studying.
They chose a college that had a respectable reputation and one that would be beneficial to the field they were studying. They do have a social life but they put their education first. They’re reading and writing papers. They’re panicked about deadlines and are cramming for exams up until the last second before that scantron is passed out.
Their Facebook Newsfeed often has Instagram photos of them and their friends at the library or hanging out on the weekend. Every now and again they’ll post a nice filtered shot of their second coffee of the night or a delicious looking alcoholic drink. Work hard, play hard.
They’re In Some College… Freaking Out.
Call it a Quarter-Life Crisis or whatever you would like. It might be the fact that they chose a major at Freshmen Orientation and waited until Senior Year to switch paths. It might be that they have to take an extra year to graduate. It might be that they’ve overscheduled and it’s past the class withdraw date. It might be that they feel like they’re drowning. It might be that their school is awful and they’re filing papers to transfer to another school.
Whatever the reason, their updates come very sparingly. Just know that they’re up to something and eventually everything will shake out for them.
They’re In Some College… In Overhaul.
This person is at the gym, going to classes, studying, working, and socializing. They’re doing it all and you don’t know how they do it. It just doesn’t make sense to you, but they’re going everywhere and just getting stuff done.
Their Facebook Page is a catalog of their lives and you get inspired just by looking at it. They make you want to do more, but only after you take a nap and catch up on your shows.
They’re Having Babies.
Maybe it’s what they always wanted or maybe it was an “oops-baby.” Either way, they had it. Maybe they’re getting married or maybe they’re already married. No matter the case, they are raising a baby now.
Now their contributions to your Newsfeed are baby photos and baby videos. Their kid is cute but you could never imagine having a baby right now. You congratulate them but at the same time you have to reevaluate your life with them for a second.
Will they stop talking to you and make their new baby their entire life?
Would they think you’re responsible enough to babysit… would you be offended if they didn’t?
Do you think they’ll let you hold their baby after seeing your keg stand photo from last week?
They’re Hanging Out.
They’re hanging at their parent’s home or renting an apartment with some friends. They may or may not have a job. They saw your other classmate decide to enlist because they were on the same Wawa trip. They’re not really about that right now. Commitment isn’t really their thing and they’re just living life.
When they’re on Facebook, they might send you a message asking when you’ll be around again for a hang. If you do choose to hang out with them, you might leave their house feeling a little assured with your life decisions. You also might just be surprised at how happy they are and rethink your life decisions.
And That’s Where We All Are.
We’re all at different stages in our lives, even if we are the same age. Just keep in mind that we’re all figuring our stuff out and it might take more time for some. The fact that you’re checking out their page means you’re interested and you care about where they are. That says a lot about you.