Cats/Kittens, College, Education, Health & Wellness, Life

What’s Essential For Success: Class of 2014 Edition

Being a member of the Class of 2014, I’m sitting in the candidate pool with all of my fellow bachelor’s degree-wielding graduates… all 1.8 million of you.  Now being one in a million never seemed negative until it followed that heavy fact, but what will set you apart from that chomping-at-the-bit crowd is one quality: Positivity.

Now you’re probably thinking it’s an irrelevant quality to have in the competitive job market.  Certainly confidence, a cut-throat attitude, or flooding the job market with your tailored resume should ultimately be what’s essential for any successful graduate.  The unfortunate fact is that you’re going to have to face (no matter how confident, cut-throat, or determined you are) a whole lot of Rejection.

And that amount of rejection is going to be brutal.

Remember those 1.8 million other graduates?  They’re doing the same things you’re doing.  They’re ironing their interview suit.  They’re re-working their cover letters to cut down the competition.  They’re stacking their resume with internships and extracurriculars to make you look like yesterday’s trash.

When you start receiving those automated rejection emails from the companies you dreamed of working for, you’re going to need a thick skin.  No college course on your transcript will help you read through rejection email after rejection email after rejection email.

And while you’re sorting through your batch of Dear Candidate letters, you’re going to hear your collegiate friends bursting from the seams.

  • She just received an offer for her dream job.
  • His start-up has taken off and all the media outlets are a buzz with his success.
  • Oh, and that flake who worked at the coffee shop off-campus?  He was just picked up by Google.

BY GOOGLE.

Who knew he programmed as a hobby at night?!

You’re going to be practically foaming at the mouth.  The now-jaded, post-grad version of yourself has become quite the cynic.  This is where your positivity is going save you from yourself.

In order to terminate self destruction mode, use Optimism.  

Sure, you’re seeing success spring up left and right.  It’s just not springing up for you yet and that’s entirely fine.  Those earlier success stories are great for those who are reaping the benefits and you should try to find it in yourself to be happy for them.

Your success is right around the corner and if you let the negativity get to you, it’ll pass right on by.  After all, the only success story founded on grumpiness was written by a cat.

 

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Cats/Kittens, Education, Entertainment, Health & Wellness, Life, Technology

Your Brain on Facebook

Facebook is blowing up about a video on Facebook.  What does it do to your brain?  It might surprise you… or it might not.

Some “facts” thrown out at you in the video explained in real life:

Courtesy of Reddit User Se7en_Sinner

People are incapable of intimately knowing more than 150 people.”

I don’t argue this fact, I argue that I can intimately know up to that amount.  It depends on my definition of intimacy, I guess.  My definition of intimacy involves letting someone hear my righteous burping or see me without make-up.

Basically for me, the deeper the intimacy, the more natural, bodily functions I’ll allow a person to see.

I’ll be honest, my intimate circle is small because I don’t want other people seeing or hearing things that can’t be unseen or unheard.

“Girls Don’t Poop” PooPourri Commercial

My friend count on Facebook isn’t just a number that makes me feel good because it’s high and that means I’m “like omg so popular.”  My number of friends says that I met all these people at least once.

Maybe I slept over their house in middle school because we were best friends and we did that every weekend.  Maybe I shared a class with them and we rolled our eyes every time that one kid pulled out his e-cigarette.  Maybe they told me a joke at a party and I nearly fell off the couch and peed my pants a little.

Life is too short to keep track of how I met my “friends,” but I can say I know at least a couple of details about the person without needing to scan their profile to figure out “who they are.”

And my friend count is over 400.

“The western and modern world sanctions individuality.  The individual is measured by … having a career, wealth, a self-image, and consumerism… Many people lose their social and familial connections in favor of a self-actualization ideal.”

Courtesy of HeyImmaTrickster

Is it entirely wrong of me to pursue a career, to generate an income, hold my head high, and buy things I want?  No.

Does that make me self-obsessed?  No.

Would my friends be mad that I’m pursuing my goals that I set for myself?  No, because they wouldn’t be my friends if they did.

So we should blame the online social network because we’re “collecting friends like stamps and not distincting quantity versus quality?”

I’m going to go with my favorite reply and say, “No.”  Strictly speaking for myself, I see quality in every person I meet… maybe with the exception being that douche with the e-cigarette in class.

(I did not add him on Facebook.)

“Converting the deep meaning and intimacy of friendship with exchange in photos and chat conversations.  By doing so we are sacrificing conversation with connection.”

Again, I might be speaking for myself but when I send my friend a cat photo I found on Imgur, I’m not saying, “OOH Cat.  Look at cat.”  I’m saying, “Hey, I like this cat photo and I know you will, too.  Not in a way that it’s obviously a cat and we both like cats.  In a way that this cat symbolizes something deeper, perhaps a longing to be a cat or to merely be in a cat’s presence.  We are both cat people and seeing this cat will make us both happy.  Here, I present to you not only a cat photo but the happiness that can only be achieved when two cat people see a cat photo.”

AGAIN, I repeat that I have a “small, intimate circle” of friends.

Also, depth of my cat obsession:

“Instead of building true friendships, we’re obsessed with endless personal promotion.  Investing hours on end on our profile, pursuing the optimum order of words in our next message, choosing the pictures in which we look our best.”

Honestly, if your social media account is all that is holding your life together: Keep on keeping on.  I won’t judge, just like I hope you don’t judge me for the horrible, awful looking faces I keep making in every photo I take or all of my cat photos.

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Masquerade Ball circa 2013.

The “fantasies” that this video proposes we use social media for:

1.) We can put our attention where we want it to be.

2.) We will always be heard.

3.) We will never have to be alone.

Which equate to “I share therefore I am.”

A play on Descartes’ “Cognito Ergo Sum” or “I think therefore I am,” however the fantasies are exactly not fantastical.

These ideas are not whimsical or frivolous.

Whether or not social media exists, these are truths we as humans have until the day we die and cease to be.

So, take that Sherry Turkle.

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College, Education, Entertainment, Health & Wellness, Life

How I’m Living My Life in My Twenties (Take it or Leave it)

I’m twenty-two and I’m tired of other writers telling me how I “my twenties” should be.

I know I might be an exception to “the rule” when it comes to being a twenty-something (I visit my “family” maybe once a year, my mom is not my best friend, I have three jobs while going to school full-time, and Red Flag I have been in a relationship for about three years), but I know not that different than some of my peers.

I’m going after what I want because I know what I want and because  I’m not a twenty-something with my head up my a**.

This is my list of How I’m Living My Life in My Twenties (Take it or Leave it):

1.) I’m in a relationship.

Marshall and Lily High Five gif

Courtesy of PandaWhale.com

I emotionally invest in my S.O. and he does the same.  I do this without hesitation because WHO HOLDS BACK THEIR FEELINGS FOR SOMEONE?

Emotionally Unstable People.

My advice is if you find someone who treats you right, makes you happy, and you can see a future with them: don’t just throw them to the curb just because you’re a twenty-something.

2.) When I was single, I didn’t sleep around.

Courtesy of CelebQuote.com

And as great as emotionless sex is, I’d rather not sleep around for funzies and wonder why my self-esteem is in the garbage or why I have an unexplained rash.

Analyze that, EliteDaily.com.

However if you enjoy sleeping with whoever you want, go for it.  I’m not here to judge, just don’t judge me for not doing the same.

2.) I drink on a budget.

Courtesy of Imgur.

So I buy cheap wine and go out for “Two Dollar Tuesday.”  You know why?  Because this twenty-something buys her drinks and I’m poor.

I feel like we can all agree that, “Candy is dandy but liquor is quicker.”

3.) I don’t go on vacation.

Courtesy of the Huffington Post.

You know why, Buzzfeed and Thought Catalog?  Because I’m broke.  That’s why.

4.) I don’t go to dance class.

Courtesy of Vulture.com

You know why, Thought Catalog?  Oh yeah, I’m broke and work too much in order to get out of being broke.

When I get on a dance floor, I rely solely on what I feel in my heart, my instincts, and Beyonce videos.

5.) I can’t get and then quit a job for “The Lolz.”

Courtesy of Undergrad.osu.edu

Struggling economy.  Competitive application processes.   Fighting over the minimum wage.  Need I say more?

Oh yeah, I’m poor.

6.) I don’t write about how great being in my 20’s is WHILE I AM STILL IN MY 20’s!

CelebQuote.com

Hindsight is great because it lets you know why things happened.  It allows you to point to what was the right choice and what was the wrong choice in certain situations.

The problem with declaring how awesome being in your twenties is while you’re still in your twenties: You’re only comparing it to being in your teens and childhood.

Although the Magic School Bus and Mr. Rogers were really cool, making them compete with Long Island Iced Teas and being seated at the bar at Buffalo Wild Wings on Half-Price Wings Night isn’t really fair.

Courtesy of Blogspot

Sorry, Thought Catalog, EliteDaily, and BuzzFeed.  I guess I’m not your demographic.

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Beauty, Health & Wellness, Life

Product Review: Maybelline Tinted Baby Lips, Cherry Me

I was in RiteAid and I wanted to try out some new products.  Marching back and forth the make-up aisle, I found the Maybelline Tinted Baby Lips collection on a bottom shelf covered by a “Buy One Get One 50% Off” sign.

I took that sign as a sign and made my purchase.  I was tired of the ranting and raving over an infant-named beauty product.  I had to know what all the fuss was about.

Baby Lips®

Maybelline Baby Lips in Cherry Me.

This lip balm gives my lips a sweet, red tint and has a fruity scent.  The package is smaller than what I expected from the commercial.  I have small hands, so there is no excuse for this false advertising impression.  However, I am happy that I don’t have a chunky lip moisturizer.

Maybelline boasts, “Our exclusive formula moisturizes lips for a full 8 hours.  Lips renewed in 1 week.”  We will see, Maybelline.  We will see.

I would recommend this product to anyone who also is looking for a tinted chap-stick and Burt’s Bees is out of stock.

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Drink Review: Crane Lake, Cabernet Sauvignon

If you’re tired of Sutter Home, Carlo Rossi, and Yellow Tail: Crane Lake will have you feeling sophisticated because you stepped away from the norm.

Crane Lake, the very name, gives you the imagery of a soothing, swan populated lake on a Spring day:  A sudden glimpse of the majestic bird through the trees on the river bank, the sudden heat of the Summer to come, and the allure of what the day (or night) ahead has in store for you.

This Cabernet Sauvignon will give you the love affair without the impending doom of heartbreak.  Certainly, the bottom of the bottle has its own despair and enlightenment.  However, the wine gives you a glimpse into the happiness that is the serendipity of life.  The win gives you a warmth and joy that only a great, cheap wine can possess.

No story, no word can describe how great a great, cheap wine is for an of-age, collegiate wine drinker.  This wine will bring you fulfillment and satisfaction for reasons of taste and for reasons of frugality.

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Beauty, Celebrity, Entertainment, Fashion, Health & Wellness, Television

Biggest Loser Rachel Frederickson Too Thin?

I’m not an avid follower of NBC’s The Biggest Loser, but when I heard the dramatic weight loss of contestant Rachel Frederickson I immediately thought, “How much did she lose?

Initially weighing in for the show at 260 lbs, Frederickson stepped on the scale during the season finale and delivered a weight loss of 155 lbs… making her current weight at 105 lbs.

She lost a Me-after-a-5-McDouble-feast-in-wet-clothes-holding-my-cat–and-my-psychology-textbook.

I cannot imagine the differences she must be seeing in her life, but I can’t help but question her response in an E News Interview about her weight loss.  “I feel amazing.  I feel truly alive.  Just transformed,” Frederickson said.  “Before I could only wear what fit.  Now, I’m finding a whole new style.  It’s really fun.”

Great.  She has found her confidence and she loves how she looks now.  What is alarming to me is that glow in her eyes when she says “style.”

My question is: Is it health that she has achieved or is it the perfect sample size for clothing?  

Let’s hope she lost the weight in a healthy way and that she will do what will make her happiest.  Reality television has enough skeletons in its closet already.

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Food Review: KBG, New Brunswick, NJ, USA

Snapchat-20140129082321KBG is located on Easton Avenue at a hole-in-the-wall spot in New Brunswick, NJ.  It’s a place that packs a powerful punch of flavors in the form of a Bowl, Burrito, or Tacos.  For a price of $7.00, you can treat yourself to a cuisine from half-way across the globe while only being a block from your home.

When I go to KBG (which is often), I order the three-taco option with Spicy Pork and Kimchi Rice.  Of course.

I skip the Veggie Bed (Red Cabbage or Romaine Lettuce) because I know it’ll only take the room away from what I really want: the sauces… but we will get to that in a minute.

I then take a step down the assembly line and order the following: Kimchi Cucumber, Daikon Carrots, Corn, Tomato, Cheese.

Then I throw on the Chipotle and Hot Sauce.  This combination will make my mouth water and my eyes cry, but my tacos are not complete without it.

My tacos are also incomplete unless I get a dollop of Sour Cream on each.  Sour Cream soothes my burning mouth and wipes my tears for me.

I then stuff my face at the nearest booth in the restaurant or I gorge in the comforting solitude that my apartment provides for such a feast.

The ingredients are fresh and easily accessed through excellent service.  I cannot recommend this place enough.

I’ll probably be eating there again tonight.

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